Showing posts with label Goals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Goals. Show all posts

Friday, January 4, 2013

Believe It and See It


As is often the case at the beginning of the year people make all kinds of resolutions.  Most revolve around getting into better shape physically.  The gyms are full of people in January, all looking to transform themselves into a paragon of fitness.  By February, most have decided that the shape they are already in (usually something resembling a pear) is fine and they stop going.  Why is this?  I think people are genuine in their desire to get into shape.  Who doesn’t want to look and feel better?  I think this failure to follow through is due to a lack of mental preparedness.  People start out with the desire to change their bodies without making the change in their heads first.

Before people begin to change anything they need to have a plan.  My plans for 2013 are big.  I envision great things for myself and my family.  Will all of these things come to pass?  Maybe not.  But at least I have an end goal in mind.  Too often people are of the “I’ll believe it when I see it”, kind of attitude.  Let’s think about this for a minute.  Do you feel the heat from a fire before it’s lit? No.  Until the fire is lit there is no heat.  You can’t have the end result without the prep work.  What about building a house?  Do builders just pick up some wood and nails and start building?  There is always a plan. A vision of what is to come.  Can you imagine what kind of monstrosities we would live in if builders just started banging away willy-nilly?  The true statement would be more like “I’ll believe it and then I will see it.”

My plan for 2013 is already underway.  It’s still early days, but I am starting to see movement (small right now) toward my goals.  I don’t see them yet, but I believe they will come. So in the interests of helping out those 2 or 3 of you who read this, I will share an outline for developing a plan of your own.  And the greatest thing about this?  It’s never too late to start!

Step 1:  Get A Dream and Dream Big
Dreams fuel your emotions.  Emotions will spur you on to some sort of action.  Maybe it is the dream of seeing the look on your kid’s faces when you tell them you are going to Disney World (having the money on hand for such a thing before you go of course).  Or the look on your spouse’s face when you go on a surprise second honeymoon.  You also need to dream bigger than you currently are.  As soon as you settle for less, you end up with less than you settled for.

Step 2:  Submit to Reality
Anything worth having will take hard work and time.  Whatever your dream is, it WILL NOT happen overnight.  Think long term.  Getting fit will not happen in a week.  Perhaps not even in a month.  (In my case maybe not in a year!) But accept that you have time to get things done.  Take some sort of action in the direction you want to go.  Doing nothing ensures you stay where you are.

Step 3:  Work Hard
There is no way around this.  You have to work to get what you want.  Don’t accept excuses because as soon as you do, it is all over.  Keep at it.

Step 4:  Believe!
You need to believe that whatever it is you are working for will happen.  This step is often the hardest.  The human mind is a strange thing.  Too often we have a difficult time believing in something that we haven’t seen or experienced.  Henry Ford once said “If you believe you can, or you believe you can’t -- you’re right.”  Sometimes we need to borrow someone else’s belief until we develop our own.  Find a partner to work with.  Join a group of like-minded individuals.  Visualize yourself in the position you are dreaming about.  Use your imagination.  Whatever it takes.  If you can’t picture yourself there it won’t happen.

So make this plan your own.  Get a dream and work for it.  You won’t be disappointed!

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

The Mental Fitness Challenge

Have you taken the Mental Fitness Challenge?  The MFC is a 90 day program designed to help you improve your life.  Want to be a better partner to your spouse?  Better parent? Need help goal setting?  What about improving your productivity at work? 

It's like a physical, get in shape and loose weight bootcamp -- but for your mind.

It starts with a self assessment in which you answer questions about yourself to gain a picture of areas in your life you may want to work to improve in.  You can then ask friends to take the assessment on your behalf and gain an understanding on how others see you.  You can also ask your friends to take the challenge with you and in doing so, create a community of people who will help each other become better people. This is an exciting opportunity to change your life for the better.  Take the challenge.


If you think you would like to take the challenge, you can head over to my website by clicking here.  From there just hit the Contact Us link and I can help get you started. 

Start Living the Life You've Always Wanted.

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Feed the Elephant

I recently read a book entitled The Ant and the Elephant by Vince Poscente.  This book is written in parable form and tells the story of an ant named Adir and an elephant named Elgo.  Basically Adir is riding on Elgo's back and is trying to reach a goal.  Adir cannot reach the goal on his own.  He needs the elephant to get him there.  As the days and weeks go on, Adir learns how to best deal with his elephant and eventually reaches his desire.

As a parable this story is obviously a metaphor for what we do in our own lives.  Adir the ant represents our conscious mind.  Our thoughts and our desires are formed there.  Elgo the elephant represents our sub-conscious mind.  It is in this part of our brain where whether or not we can complete a task or reach a goal is determined.

Our sub-conscious mind is a powerful thing as illustrated by the images of the ant and the elephant.  We all know that an ant is industrious and hardworking and strong.  But when we compare the ant to the raw power of an elephant we see which is truly more powerful. 

What does all this mean?  Basically we have to be aware of what kind of diet we are providing for our elephant.  A good diet which provides positive thoughts and clear indications of what we wish to accomplish will help to train our sub-conscious mind to move in positive directions.  If we are providing our elephant with a negative diet it doesn't matter what our ant says -- we will never reach our goal.  If we can get our ant and our elephant (our conscious and sub-conscious) working together and moving in the same direction at the same time, our potential for success increases dramatically.

It's not always an easy thing to think positively about reaching your goals.  Life often throws up obstacles to bar the way.  What we must learn to do is to see these obstacles as potential for growth and as steps towards something better.

What are you feeding your elephant?